Tim Tebow’s comments about his ideal wife – someone who’s sweet and has a “servant’s heart” – have stirred discussion on the Web, with some concluding that he wants a “hot slave,” as OpposingViews.com put it.
“He basically made it seem like he wants some hot woman who dropped straight from 50 Shades Of Grey and will do what he wants and not talk back and certainly not mention that he is currently sitting on the bench,” the Los Angeles-based website stated.
Tebow, a devout Christian, is featured in the latest issue of Vogue magazine with the headline “Superman Returns: Tim Tebow Touches Down in New York.” He was asked what he’s looking for in a woman.
He answered, “I’ve been blessed to have an amazing mom and two amazing sisters-so they set a very high standard.
“Obviously looks play a big part. Being attracted to someone plays a big part, but there’s also so much more than that for me. It’s about finding someone sweet and kind – and that has a servant’s heart. It’s about finding a girl who likes me for me, and not because of what I do or who I am or the name.”
That sound bite has been picked up by publications with the New York Post writing, “Tebow in market for ‘servant’ woman” and jezebel.com reporting, “Tim Tebow Tells Vogue His Perfect Woman Is Hot, Kind, and Servile.”
One Christian leader came to the New York Jets quarterback’s defense.
Russell D. Moore, dean of the School of Theology at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, tried to explain in a blog post that what Christians mean when they say “a servant’s heart” is not exactly what non-Christians think it to mean. In other words, Tebow is not a chauvinist as some might view him.
“You hear this language and you assume Tebow wants a Stepford wife in a French maid’s uniform, massaging his feet and refilling his glass of sweet tea. But this isn’t what evangelical Christians mean when they say ‘a servant’s heart,’” Moore stated.
“In Christianity,” he stressed, “a ‘servant’ isn’t a slur.”
So what about differences between the sexes?
I’m sure you didn’t need to read this post in order to learn that men and women are different! Nevertheless, a biblical examination of those differences is valuable, because so often we overlook them or find them to be stumbling blocks to maintaining successful relationships.
One of the most wonderful aspects of God’s diverse creation is that He created a number of differences between the sexes, yet we are one humanity. In Genesis 1:27-28 we read,
“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.’”
Equal but different
Notice that when God created man (as it’s translated in the NKJV), He created man male and female. A better translation might be, “So God created humanity” or “human beings” because the word “man” in this verse doesn’t mean male as opposed to female; it means “human”. God created “people”, made in His own image, male and female, and these two are equal but different.
Equal in dignity and worth
Men and women are totally equal in their dignity and worth. Both were made in the image of God. Some Bible scholars used to teach that it was the man who carried the image of God. I want to suggest that no greater liberation has ever come to the female species on this earth than through the Word of God, which reveals the true equality of men and women!
The truth is that all of us, men and women alike, bear the image of God, and what is important is that each of us reflects that image. As distinct yet complimentary sexes, we are ultimately to reflect the heart and purpose of God within the covenant of marriage. The only exception are those to whom God has given the gift of singleness – a unique gift of God that blesses an individual with an extraordinary ability to reflect the glory of God and the completion of God as a single person. It’s beautiful when it happens and it’s tragic when people miss it.
Equal in call and commission
Men and women were also created equal in call and commission. Both have been called to be fruitful and have dominion in the earth, especially together in partnership. God’s command was, “Be fruitful and multiply.” Try and do that on your own if you’re a man!
Different in gender and role
So men and women are equal in their standing before God, but different in their gender. The first difference that is obvious about gender is that men and women have distinct anatomical and physiological differences. God designed the bodies of men and women to be compatible. It is obvious that sexual intercourse between a man and a woman is a natural joining together of two complimentary bodies; and that sex between two men or two women is therefore unnatural. While members of the same sex can engage in sexual activity, surely no-one would argue that homosexual activity is anatomically or physiologically compatible.
He explained, “Serving is precisely how Jesus rules as king, and how he prepares his people, men and women, to rule with him in the reign to come. Husbands serve wives. Wives serve husbands. Children serve parents. Parents serve children. Pastors serve churches. Churches serve pastors. That concept might be demeaning in the world of Vogue, but it’s not in a new creation where ‘the leader is the one who serves’ (Lk. 22:26).”